Author: Ken Stewart

  • Grounded

    As we emerge from the constraints of recent months many of us are entering a period where our unconsciousness and conditioned patterns of living are being broken. The pressure cooker of hard times is actually what interrupts and challenges our ability to keep maintaining our habitual patterns. We find we can’t just continue to go through the motions. We can’t just keep up the momentum of how we’ve been taught to be and what we’ve been taught to ignore and what we’ve been taught to prioritise. We realise that what’s been passed down through generations no longer works for human beings to thrive together.

    Big changes are stirring and I believe they are arising from something deep within our bodies – our true nature, our embodied selves. The current situation has stimulated our evolution.

    This is a massive upheaval even for those whose life’s work has been going in this direction. We evolve from being like a leaf in the wind: vulnerable, brittle and thrown off balance easily, to being more like a tree: deeply rooted and yet more flexible to the winds of change. This metamorphosis involves a loosening of the constrictions and rigidities in our connective tissues (fascia). We can begin to overthrow old habits of disconnectedness from our bodies. We have an opportunity to become “grounded”, to break with old patterns that obstruct our deeper connectedness.

    We have an opportunity to become “grounded”, to break with old patterns that obstruct our deeper connectedness.

    People coming to see me are experiencing the difficulties of this transition. They are experiencing it in their bodies and I am seeing it manifested in their way of walking, thumpy footsteps, wandery direction, restrictions in their hips, knees and/or ankles, unlevel shoulders, a lack of energetic movement and/or pain and stiffness in parts of their bodies. I am able to sense this as areas of stagnant energy in specific parts of the body and can help by stimulating the energy flow into these areas. Once energy is released and can flow more freely, a person can feel more connected within themselves and more grounded.

    Once energy is released …. a person can feel more connected within themselves.

    As always, I am inspired by the people who come to see me and am delighted to assist them in their evolution towards healing, vitality and connectedness, which in turn contributes to the healing and vitality of the wider environment, if not the world.

  • The HeartMath Experience

    We are all experiencing challenges and disruptions to our lives. Anxiety and uncertainty about the future is rife in our communities and stress levels are generally higher than average – even for people who are typically calm and grounded.

    HeartMath is offering free access to their popular new online program, The HeartMath Experience, during the months of April and May and possibly longer.

    Click here for your free access to The HeartMath Experience.

    This effective 90‑minute interactive learning experience provides insights into the power of your heart’s intelligent guidance. You will learn 5 scientifically validated HeartMath techniques designed to help you reduce stress and anxiety while increasing inner serenity and emotional poise.

    The coronavirus pandemic is awakening millions to the reality of our interconnectedness. We are all in this together, which can turn out to be the bright side of it all. Yes, millions are isolated by ‘shelter in place’ or separated by ‘social distancing’, yet sensing that it’s now time to care for each other more than ever.” – Doc Childre, HeartMath founder

    These techniques for balancing the mind and emotions, as well as practicing compassionate care, can enhance our immune system and boost our resilience.

    Click here for your free access to The HeartMath Experience.

     

    Free Online Healing Circle Meditation

    We are fortunate to have in our community a long time friend of mine, Margo Field. Margo has travelled to the USA to train as a HeartMath facilitator. Together we have organised an Online Group Meditation event using the HeartMath techniques described in the HeartMath Experience program.

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    On Thursday 21st May 7.30 pm to 8.30 pm. Please fill out and submit the registration form below if you wish to participate.

     

  • Curiosity

    Curiosity

    “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”  — Mark Twain

    I have long been interested in the phenomenon of curiosity. When I contemplate its meaning I realise that it comes from “presence”- being totally present in a given moment. Curiosity is an active meditation requiring an opening of the senses and a sharpening of the mind. The experience of being curious is a key ingredient to infusing life with meaning and purpose.

    Curiosity is an orientation that seeks what is novel in a situation. It embraces uncertainty, rather than struggling for control. There is evidence that maintaining curiosity in old age protects against cognitive and physical decline.

    I notice a sense of curiosity in the people I see at Enkindle Wellness. I often see a willingness to confront unfamiliar or challenging concepts and endeavours in order to seek a more meaningful and fulfilling life. This is an encouraging experience for me and for the people who come to my practice.

    Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life” written by Dr Todd Kashdan is a book filled with studies and insights into curiosity.

    Dr. Kashdan draws issue with the “happiness movement” as an end goal. He advocates curiosity as a more authentic path for a happy and meaningful life. Being curious requires an openness to the unfamiliar and to uncertain outcomes. If just being happy is your goal, then you are closed off from the possibility of unexpected outcomes. Curiosity requires not just an attentiveness to the potential of a given situation but also a degree of risk.

    “When we experience curiosity, we are willing to leave the familiar and routine and take risks, even if it makes us feel anxious and uncomfortable,” said Kahsdan. “Curious explorers are comfortable with the risks of taking on new challenges. Instead of trying desperately to explain and control our world, as a curious explorer we embrace uncertainty, and see our lives as an enjoyable quest to discover, learn and grow.”

    We can exercise curiosity by seeking what’s intriguing about our world … about why things are important to us….about people we think we know ….about relationships that challenge us…. or even someone we’ve been married to for 20 years!

    One of the great barriers preventing us from delving into curiosity is fear. When faced with uncertainty or risk, it is much easier, and widely approved of, to stay confined in what is deemed to be safe. We are afraid to let curiosity take full reign. Sometimes we have to live with a little risk, fear or danger to become the individual, the family and even the nation we want to be.

    By being curious about what lies behind obvious situations we invariably find that things are more complicated or complex than they appear on the surface. Perhaps a good measure of curiosity might lead to an equal measure of understanding and acceptance. If we can see the world as a big, complex environment, we might begin to appreciate our interconnectedness and, in turn, be curious about why our own problems and issues might be small and insignificant in the face of a much larger picture.

    Being a “Curious Explorer”

    1. Try to notice little details of your daily routine that you never noticed before.
    2. When talking to people, try to remain open to whatever transpires without judging or reacting.
    3. Let novelty unfold and resist the temptation to control the flow.
    4. Gently allow your attention to be guided by little sights, sounds or smells that come your way.

    Photo: Night sky at Sherbrook River, January 2020

  • Kindness

    The way an individual interacts with others is directly linked to his or her physical, mental and emotional health. The physical, mental and emotional health of those sharing the interaction is positively affected too.  

    I wish to share some thoughts on kindness.

    Kindness is Contagious

    Kindness, like all emotion, is contagious. It is also proven to make you happier. When you’re kind to others, your brain produces feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters that promote the ability to build strong relationships with others, fostering positive feelings all around.

    If taking the feelings of others into consideration is one of the definitions of kindness, other worthy attributes such as sympathy, empathy, compassion, thoughtfulness, gentleness and caring also fall under its umbrella. So is being humane, as kindness should also be extended to animals.

    I am often impressed by the kindness displayed by people I see at Bundaleer, which caused me to ponder: what makes a person kind?

    Byron Katie, as usual, provided an answer: “The less you suffer, the kinder you naturally become.”  Compassion and suffering are definitely linked. But being compassionate is more complex than simply being kind; for “If compassion means wanting others to be free of suffering, how can you want for others what you may not be able to provide for yourself?” (See my blog The Less you Suffer the Kinder you Naturally Become)

    “The less you suffer, the kinder you naturally become.”

    I recently read an article by a psychologist who works with people who feel they are unlovable and undeserving of kindness or compassion. Dr Kirby from the University of Sussex examined brain scans of more than a thousand participants. He discovered strong positive benefits (production of neurotransmitters like serotonin) when people acted kindly, especially when there was no immediate gain for themselves.

    What interested me most was his finding that the act of being kind to oneself offered just as much benefit as altruistic kindness. “If I am being kind towards myself, the same regions (in the brain) light up if I’m receiving kindness from another person or giving kindness to another person,” Dr Kirby discovered. Being kind to other people can have multiple benefits, but it’s also just as important to be kind to yourself.

    Being kind to other people can have multiple benefits, but it’s also just as important to be kind to yourself.

    I find it fascinating that some people are very good at being kind to others but the very thought of being kind to themselves is foreign or threatening. What prevents us from being kind to ourselves?

    The barriers to being kind to ourselves lie in our reaction to physical, mental and emotional traumas experienced earlier in our lives (See my blog article When the Voice Gets Louder…). These traumas result in tension being stored in our bodies which blocks our ability to express or receive kindness.

    Releasing the stored tension, which is commonly felt as pain, restricted movements and lack of energy and direction, frees us to fulfil our potential to be a kinder, happier person.

    This is the very heart of the work I do with the people in my practice. I help them find and bring attention to the tension in their bodies and using precise and gentle techniques release the layers buried within. This process allows people to further accept and express their kindness and compassion.

    Kindness, like all emotion, is contagious.

    Image: Evening Clouds, Kyneton by Ken Stewart

  • Active Surrender

    Active Surrender

    People who come to see me are often experiencing a difficult period in their lives. Difficulties we all face in life as the result of challenges within families, health issues, social interactions and societal pressures often result in our becoming ungrounded and subjected to inflexible mental thinking and a body patterned with tension and blockages.

    This can bring out aspects in us that we may have experienced in the past or that we thought we had moved beyond. We can be thrown back into habits that we thought we had overcome – pettiness, irritation, fixations and frustrations.

    From the depths and darkness of these situations the Care I provide can enable people to switch on their light to illuminate a way forward. This requires active surrender.

    When most people hear the word surrender, they think of something negative: giving up, losing, being humiliated, or allowing yourself to be controlled or perhaps even imprisoned. However, when used in our context, surrender also means to give up but here it’s to give up everything that no longer serves you. To stop struggling against the things you cannot change, let go of the smallness of life, and more fully embrace its totality.

    Active surrender is when you stop forcing solutions on situations you can’t control and instead trust and have faith in your ability to adjust, adapt and cope. It’s stepping out of all limitations, expanding beyond your usual conditioning, and opening to infinite possibilities. And it requires active commitment.

     “Surrender is a gift that you can give yourself. It’s an act of faith. It’s saying that even though I can’t see where this river is flowing, I trust it will take me in the right direction.” Debbie Ford

    The ego loves to control everything. It creates the boundaries and limitations in which you imprison yourself. Surrender allows you to break free and step into the wisdom of uncertainty. With surrender, you can connect fully with your source where the whole universe collaborates to support you. You can become calm, eternal, infinite, joy-filled, and fearless.

    Active surrender has the following qualities: Faith, Patience and Awareness.

    Faith

    Faith is a state of total confidence and respect for all things. To fully surrender, you must have faith in yourself. No need to think of anything else but your connectedness to the Universe. Faith helps you accept everything—the good and bad equally.

    Patience

    You also need patience. The patience to allow things to unfold naturally with the understanding that everything you need will come your way at the perfect moment. Faith and patience complement each other. Each is both: the cause as well as the effect of the other. They are the means as well as the end of the other.

    Awareness

    Active surrender requires you to be aware. You need to remain focused and diligent, and overcome any doubts. While the normal concept of surrender is one of contraction, active surrender is one of expansion. The more you surrender, the more your awareness expands.

    Letting Go and Changing from Within.

    The first step towards active surrender is to become aware of the difference between the things you cannot change and the things that you have some control over. Making positive choices enabling you to practice the 3 qualities mentioned above requires self-awareness and care.Take the time to settle into quieter levels of the mind, reconnect with your essential self and assess your bodily discomfits and tensions. 

    Take the time to settle into quieter levels of the mind, reconnect with your essential self and assess your bodily discomfits and tensions.

    Increasingly in my work I am seeing people who have made the active choice to surrender to a higher level of awareness. I believe that I am assisting them in their journey.

    It is indeed a paradox that a choice to focus on a bigger picture begins with a focus on a smaller one………….a person’s individual awareness and care of themselves!

    Photo: Macedon Ranges from Bundaleer Homestead

  • To Live the Best Life I Can

    To Live the Best Life I Can

    When I asked a young woman, who I saw for the first time recently, what motivated the significant changes she had made in her life over the last year she said she had decided, “To live the best life I can”.

    I found her words to be inspirational as she had the wisdom to speak in the present and the present is the only place we can change any aspect of ourselves.

    We hear a lot about ways to success these days. Often it’s about setting and achieving goals and/or finding our purpose. These can be useful for taking the steps on our journey but often fail to provide a deeper contentment and meaning. It is this deep sense of meaning that I believe is fundamental to our humanness.

    Imagine an old sailing ship navigating it’s way on its journey. As it proceeds along the coastline it has goals of recognising and passing each lighthouse and it has the purpose of delivering the goods it carries to its destination. But its navigation is actually being achieved by following the direction given by the stars. This navigation is a calling – the ship is being guided and knows that it is heading in the right direction.

    A calling is completely different; it comes from a deeper awareness of something beyond us

    Goals are the work of the mind and purpose adds a little heart to the mind’s business. A calling is completely different; it comes from a deeper awareness of something beyond us (like the stars that guided the old ships). It is not necessary (or perhaps even possible) to describe a calling in words, it’s a deep knowing. It is the soul’s business.

    The core focus of a calling is always present and in the present. It will always drive you, regardless of how you choose to act on it. You may find there are many actions which are congruent with your calling. But inspiring change is always present with a calling. Callings are about contributing to the world through your words, actions, presence and creations. Your views, experiences, voice and ideas are meant to be shared and your calling will align itself with some way to express these things. This is why they matter.

    Callings are about contributing to the world through your words, actions, presence and creations.

    Callings draw you towards them. They may start as a tiny nagging thought or feeling. Callings involve listening to your intuitions, they start deep inside us when we realise that we are not separate from the universe. (See my previous article “The Truth is in the Body”.) They call you to align yourself with wisdom and they are always present. Once recognised for what they are, they will always drive and guide you. This was the very message that impressed me during the conversation I mentioned at the beginning of this article. My young client expressed wisdom beyond her years and was enjoying the benefits of a changed focus in her life.

    Your calling is as unique as you are; and yet has a universal quality that is wise, compassionate and healing.

  • The Truth Is In The Body

    On the radio I heard a discussion about a program that helped gambling addicts by using dramatic acting. A young man spoke about his addiction and his $1,000,000 debt. He said he had tried a variety of counselling methods to resolve his addiction but nothing changed until he joined the acting group. He said that by acting he had to engage his body and, “with your body there is a sensation that is so real – that’s where I felt the humungous shift in finding my own truth rather than reflecting and running away from it.”

    By connecting with his body he healed his addiction. His insight into the body’s role in healing prompted me to write the following article.

    Listening to your body’s GPS

    Do you listen in wonder to the voice of your car’s GPS giving you detailed instructions,”….at the next roundabout, turn right….in 500 metres you will reach your destination….”?   We seem to have unreserved faith in our GPS’s ability to deliver us to our desired destination.  We have confidence in its knowledge of where we are and its ability to take us where we want to go.

    Take a moment to compare the voice of your car’s GPS to the voice in your head – the voice that expresses the thoughts racing though our minds; “I think I recognise that house….. He forgot to put the rubbish out (again)…. I’m so stupid, why do I always do that…… No, I think it was to the right…..I didn’t get the milk…..I wonder why she said that…. Oh, look at that woman’s dress…..I must be lost …….” and on and on. It’s pretty obvious that the voice in your head, unlike your car’s GPS, has little, or no idea where you are or where you are going.

    And yet that voice in your head is the navigation system that most of us use to live our lives by – the so-called rational mind. We live by expectations and “shoulds.” 

    To expect the mind to be a trustworthy guide in life would be like expecting my computer to offer me empathy and wise counsel. I genuinely appreciate all the marvellous things my laptop can do, including helping me to write this article, but I would be quite insane if I expected it to tell me what to write. Yet this is what most of us do – we look to our thinking to tell us what to do.

    Our thinking can at times seem so clear and instructive. Yet our capacity to think is heavily compromised by our beliefs, our conditioning, our perception of society’s expectations and various unresolved traumas we have experienced. Thinking can make us feel clever but we cannot think our way to healing.

    Few of us have lost our minds, but most of us have long ago lost our bodies.” Ken Wilbur

    Our thinking mind certainly has a legitimate role to play in our lives; it is invaluable in acquiring knowledge. But being knowledgeable doesn’t always serve us well. Knowing what to do with knowledge requires wisdom.  The rational mind is good servant, but a poor master. It is not our deepest truth teller and doesn’t always guide us in the best direction.

    “Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit.
    Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.
    ~ Miles Kington

    Within us all there is a guidance system (our very own GPS) which we can consult at any time. Our bodies have a message for us and if we listen with the same awe and reverence that we give to the GPS in our vehicles we will find guidance and direction in our lives. This is easier said than done, I know. But we can start by paying attention to the body. Using its own special language in the form of physical sensations, it tells us exactly what we need to know.

    Most often, we only notice our body when we experience pain or other symptoms. Once we register pain or discomfort, we then put our efforts into getting rid of the symptoms.

    A trembling in the bones may carry a more convincing testimony than the dry documented deductions of the brain.” Llewellyn Powers

    The body is extremely sensitive. If we carefully observe the reactions of the body, a whole world opens up. We notice subtle changes in heart rate, breathing, muscular tension, and digestion. We feel tightness, softness, vibration, heaviness, space.

    Notice where you are sitting right now – the weight of your body, your breath, the sounds around you. Let yourself be in this moment without a commentary. Or if there is a commentary, just notice it as such. What do you sense? How do you feel? …And what is your sense of that which is aware? Don’t think about it.

    Through the body we can have a sense of being in harmony or disharmony with whatever situation we are facing. Through the body we can feel in connection and continuity with the whole of life or dissociated, split off and alienated.

    Through the body we can feel settled or unsettled, at ease or uneasy. Through the body we can feel spacious or contracted, grounded or spacey, enlivened or deadened.

    We need to learn the language of the body – it speaks in physical sensations. Everything that happens in our bodies is an opportunity to respond. We can be guided or we can ignore. But first we must listen…..

    The inner guidance whispers while our conditioned habits are screaming.

    By listening to the body we can gain wisdom and be guided towards an awakened, authentic and creative life. Through the body we can experience our truth.

    During your care at Enkindle Wellness I will guide and assist you to notice and pay attention to subtle blockages and restrictions in your body that hold the secrets to your healing. A slightly restricted ankle, a twist in your body as you lift your knee, a restriction in one side of your chest with deep inhalation…… These tensions are the result of past traumas in your life and more often than not relate to symptoms that manifest in other parts of your body. My job is to help you to learn the language of your body.

    Like the former gambler on the radio, noticing a sensation in your body can cause a “humungous shift”. You move closer to your truth of who you really are.

    The radio program was on Radio National’s Life Matters “Tackling gambling stigma through theatre.”

  • What Is The Difference?

    “What is the difference between the “work” you do and other modes of healing work such as reiki?”

    This is a common question that people ask me.

    Energy healing modes are important ways to assist people to heal. Most healing modes, such as reiki, are learnt and practiced as a technique. i.e. there is a way to set up the room, the person is assessed to determine areas on which to focus, which symbols to use, what hand positions and what symbols are appropriate and what interpretations of information received are given. All of which amounts to a fairly set formula.

    From years of learning and evolving my own practice, I have gained the understanding that:

    • All healing is self-healing – here is no healer except of oneself
    • “Healing” techniques that rely on the judgement and interpretations of the practitioner are limiting the power of their process because there is a pre-existing expectation that healing will occur in a predictable way.
    • A practitioner of the healing arts is a “conditioner of the space” that facilitates the self-healing of the person, rather than being “the healer”.

    This evolved understanding of healing can be a difficult concept to grasp even for those who have had years of experience in the healing arts. It is at odds with what we have grown up with, namely that the practitioner is in charge and is responsible for the outcome.

    An understanding of the new genre of healing requires a completely different approach. Lately, the cutting edge of Science (from physics to microbiology and neuroscience) supports the notion of us all having an interrelationship with everything and everybody in the universe. The concept that we are separate and autonomous is actually a convenient illusion.

    “If you’re lucky, your healing will come in the form you anticipate. If you’re really lucky, your healing will come in a form you’ve not even dreamed of – one which the Universe specifically has in mind for you.” Dr Eric Pearl.

    With earlier methods of my practice I felt the person was relying on my interpretations of their condition. People were rarely aware of their own mastery. Over time, I increasingly felt I was better positioned to help people to help themselves.

    Gradually I was able to let go of previous techniques and instead was more able to be “present” with the person I was seeing. Paradoxically, it was by learning Network Chiropractic techniques, with its emphasis on acute observation of a person’s breathing and body movements that enabled me to begin my journey. More recently, by embracing Profound Tension Release and in taking on the subtle skills of Tesla Metamorphosis I have gained insight into the limits of adhering to a single healing modality. It is an ongoing journey but I can honestly say that there is an increasing freedom and joy and potential therein. Given the above observation regarding our inter-connectedness, I am also witnessing the courage, freedom and joy in the people I see in my practice.

    “Energy healing techniques, old and new, are like training wheels on a bicycle. You don’t improve by adding more. To truly master the bicycle, you must remove the training wheels. The true gift of the healing technique comes only in its transcendence.”  Dr Eric Pearl.

    I hope this goes some way towards an understanding of my practice. It is extremely difficult to put into words exactly what I do. Years of hands on experience plus an on-going thirst for greater understanding and an active engagement with like-minded people all contribute to my capacity to help people. But I want to conclude by saying that the biggest factor in the process of healing is by far a person’s commitment to themselves and their courage to take on the issues that emerge from their healing.

  • What To Do About Anxiety

    Of the most recent 25 people who have come to see me for the first time, 44% reported on their intake form that they were experiencing anxiety. Almost all of these people were not experiencing clinically diagnosed anxiety nor were they receiving any treatment for the condition. Statistics tell us that over 2 million Australians experience clinically diagnosed anxiety every year.  Clearly it can be a serious condition requiring medical and psychological help.

    But where does that leave the seemingly large group of people, such as people who come to see me, who manage periods of anxiety themselves? It can have a real and debilitating effect on all aspects of their lives.

    Anxiety is often described as, “a crazy out of control energy” in the body, mind and nervous system

    In speaking with my practice members over the years, I have come to the conclusion that anxiety is often described as, “a crazy out of control energy” in the body, mind and nervous system. It produces symptoms which include: a racing mind, feeling “spacey”, poor sleep, irritability, defensiveness, aches and pains, poor concentration, constant worries, fear and breathlessness. I think most people have experienced anxiety at some point in their lives.

    From a Network Chiropractic point of view, I look at “conditions” such as anxiety as dysfunctions rather than diseases. From this perspective, common anxiety results from a current life situation bringing to the surface previous traumatic life experiences. Traumatic experiences from the past have been stored in the body and mind because the person didn’t have the resources or maturity to resolve them at the time of their occurrence.

    The original trauma, be it physical, emotional or mental (or a combination), need not seem hugely significant from an adult’s point of view, or even be remembered by the adult. Its significance is how stressful it was at the time it occurred, from the perspective of the  person experiencing it at that time. It’s interesting to note that of the new people mentioned above who reported anxiety, all but two reported experiencing childhood trauma. Their ages ranged from 14 to 57 years old.

    In my experience the “crazy energy” of common anxiety can almost always be resolved. The personal characteristics of the people who most successfully address their anxiety are:

    • An awareness that there is no quick fix – the journey is about personal development to become more of the person they know and want to be – not just “fixing” the symptoms.
    • Finding the courage to take on “stuff” knowing that there’s multilayered blockages which take time (months, often years) to get to the bottom of.
    • Confidence to take their own course, to be aware of powerful interests of control in our society (and often of the influence of family and friends).
    • Preparedness to experience the recurrence of symptoms along the way and realise that symptoms are a source of learning.
    • Determination to change their life for the better, despite the ups and downs and to become less judgemental of themselves.
    • A curiosity about ways from within to make progress: meditation, eating well, exercising appropriately, being kind, creating time for oneself, trying “presence” methods such as Byron Katie’s “The Work”.
    • Following through with healing arts – Network Chiropractic, Profound Tension Release and Tesla Metamorphosis for example are all designed to help you become more of what you can be by helping release stored anxiety patterns.

    The “crazy energy” becomes more directed (turns into a strength) and able to be utilised for positive results as the person becomes more grounded and less defensive.

    With the techniques I use, people report that the “crazy energy” becomes more directed (turns into a strength) and able to be utilised for positive results as the person becomes more grounded and less defensive. With time, people find the strength and enthusiasm to speak and listen more compassionately. They contribute more to the world than they did previously.

    Please contact me if this resonates with you and you would like to know more.

    Important

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  • “Feeling Old”

    During the initial stages of a first consultation, it is common for people to tell me that they are “feeling old”.

    They talk about experiencing “aches and pains”, restricted movement in their joints, lack of energy, stress, depression, anxiety and perhaps one or more chronic health conditions.

    In fact, if you are over 50 years old (and often younger), the above symptoms are regarded as normal in our society. They seem to be the standard by which people are judged by our conventional health care system. This situation is inevitable in a system that specialises in trying to fix people’s problems rather than empowering them to find the resources within themselves to live a more dynamic and resilient life.

    I believe that we all have the energy and potential within ourselves to make our lives more fulfilling. Occasionally our problems can be “fixed”, but we are more likely to improve our health by:

    “Accepting the things we cannot change, finding the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

    It takes great courage and insight to step away from a system that promotes dependence, insecurity and fear.  It takes energy and commitment to embrace the truth of the above quote (the Serenity Prayer).

    Taking control of our lives requires wisdom (see Heart Wisdom) combined with a positive determination. There are many studies showing that it is one’s attitude to aging that determines one’s quality of life and even one’s longevity. Having a positive attitude contributes enormously to our wellbeing as we age.

    A good starting point is to accept that our life at any one moment is the sum of all that we have experienced to reach this point.  Our ancestral makeup, our childhood, our physical injuries, our emotional and mental traumas, our relationships with others and our way of thinking about ourselves in the world are the very substance of our lives.

    In my profession, I can gain a snapshot of someone’s life through their posture.  Posture is a reflection of who we are – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, at any moment. The shape of our body is brought about by the tissue that holds us together while allowing our movements: our connective tissue. (see Our Dance between Stability and Movement).

    Much of our “feeling old” is from the long term build-up of tensions in our connective tissue as the result of physical, emotional and mental trauma. Over the years this leads to tension in the muscles and joints which in turn causes aches, pain and arthritis. We compensate for trauma in our connective tissue with subtle changes in our flexibility and movements. (Most of the time we are unaware that this is happening.) Our body is trying to do the right thing to keep us going but gradually the compensations build on earlier compensations until we experience pain and stiffness.

    The pain and stiffness is noticed because these compensations lead to inflammation and adhesions in our tissues. What we often don’t notice initially is that the inflammation and adhesions are also in and around our organs leading to organ pain and reduced organ function.

    I help people by carefully observing their posture and movements and encouraging them to understand the compensations that they are using to get by in life. I like to point out to people just how clever our bodies are at keeping us active, despite the wear and tear that we all experience. Then, by using a few sessions of Network Care, I focus on restoring the flow in the nervous system. The process of Profound Tension Release also has the ability to release the restrictions in the connective tissue system, to achieve the energy and freedom that we all have within ourselves to live a more enjoyable and effective life.

    We can all “live younger” by paying tribute to our body’s natural ability to adapt, by being patient with the process of change and acknowledging the profound capacity we all have to be energetic and wise.