Divergent Reflections

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When the Voice Gets Louder….

When the voice gets louder, you’re on the right track.   Have you ever noticed that when you decide to, or start to, do something new, especially if it involves a significant shift from your previous way doing things, there is an increase in the “chatter” from the voice in your head? The voice may say: “You can’t do that”, “What will they think?”, “Nobody else does it like that”, “You’re stupid to think like that” and dozens of other similar statements. The stronger the voice the more likely it

2016-11-02T11:56:10+00:00 September 9th, 2015|

The Hero’s Journey

Every experience in life can be seen as a heroine’s (hero's) journey. The challenges the hero faces, the forces of good and evil, the resolution, are similar – often amazingly so – across time, place and culture. Fairy tales, legends, myths, movies, tales of all sorts follow this archetypal storyline: innocent hero answers a call to venture out of their innocence and is initiated into a situation fraught with danger. With the help of allies, hero meets challenge and returns home triumphant. Keeping in mind that a hero's journey can

2016-11-02T11:56:10+00:00 September 4th, 2015|

Being vs Doing – Resolving the Paradox

If we are “supposed to be” perfect in the moment how do we change ourselves and the world for the better? This apparent paradox is the old question of Being vs Doing. Wisdom calls for us to accept things as they are and at the same time we know that we want to change things. How can this be achieved? I have to say that I pondered this over for several years and the answer seemed to be there, like it was hanging in space, but I could not grasp

2016-11-02T11:56:10+00:00 August 27th, 2015|

Invite Your “Higher Self” For a Coffee and Chat.

Much of what distresses us comes from a conflict with our “higher selves.”  We often perceive ourselves as falling short of our own potential and are overwhelmed by inadequacy. The following thought-experiment might prove useful: Imagine for a moment that your so-called higher self is living a parallel life. Right now, he or she is doing the things you want to be doing, having the relationships you want to be having, living the life-style you want to be living, enjoying the health you want to be enjoying, and is expressing

2016-11-02T11:56:10+00:00 August 22nd, 2015|

What is Is

“The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When our mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.” – Byron Katie Byron Katie In 1986 while in a halfway house for women with eating disorders Byron Katie experienced a life-changing realization: “I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is

2016-11-02T11:56:10+00:00 August 17th, 2015|

Seeking a Balanced Life

  Sometime last year I woke one morning and realised I had a cold. It made me stop and think (as symptoms are supposed to do) about what was going on in my life that was causing the stress that contributed to my succumbing to a virus. I paused and went through a checklist of my current activities to see if I was living a “Balanced Life”. Exercise Diet Meditation Family and friends time Work challenge/satisfaction Sleep I thought that I was carrying these aspects of life reasonably well according

2016-11-02T11:56:10+00:00 August 12th, 2015|

Learning to Know

  I have always been fascinated by the task of having to re-learn things I thought I already knew. Clearly everyone has experienced this, so here are a few reflections on this mysterious and mostly frustrating aspect of life. Most of us have decided at some stage to follow advice for a better way of living. Whether it is to “know” to: “Be the change you wish to see in the world”; or to “know” that: “You shouldn’t get angry and stressed as it doesn’t help you and is bad

2016-11-02T11:56:11+00:00 August 1st, 2015|